Please forgive me while I gush………

7 years, 9 months ago 11

It is said that absence makes the heart grow fonder, I’m not sure  how it works for others but it sure works on me! When I go out speaking around the country, I often remark about how much in love I am after 43 years of marriage! On one occasion my bride was with me, and a woman from the audience asked Sherelene how that was possible, she answered, “Well, he has only been home 15 of the 43 years!”  We all got a good laugh but it was pretty accurate. I know that being away a lot makes it fresh when I get home, but my love and respect for my wife goes a lot deeper than that.  Now before I start please know I’m not just bragging, o.k. well a little, but I really do want to address this to the men out there, I want to share about how to keep that love alive and well in a relationship.


Let me start by saying that I not only love my wife, my bride, my girl friend, my best friend, (yes, they are all the same person!!!), I also admire and respect her.  Let me start there.


Sherelene is amazing, she is a great mother, a wonderful grandmother, a spectacular wife, an accomplished Nurse Practitioner, a caring person, a real witness of her faith, and a classy, beautiful woman.  *Time out, I know you are wondering how on earth I landed a gal like this, well for one thing, I’ve never let her get her eyes checked and gotten glasses!!!   Sherelene is my best friend my most trusted compatriot, and the person I love to have time with more than anyone else!  She has given me a wonderful family, and we are enjoying them immensely, together!


O.K. How do you keep love alive.  First, it helps to have someone like Sherelene who makes all my efforts a labor of love!  May I make a few suggestions?


1.  Never stop dating your spouse!  When you first met, you went out of your way to impress her, and do things you think she might love!  Don’t stop.  I buy Sherelene fresh flowers every week I’m home.  I take her out to dinner as often as possible, I even take out the trash, and straighten up around home before she get home from work.  I make it a point to know what she values and act on it!


2. Listen to her.  When she wants to share about work, or ask advice, I stop what I’m doing, (for me this is really hard, it’s a learning process), and truly listen and try to respond in a thoughtful and honest way.


3.  Study the word, and pray together.  We lift up our needs, our family and friends, and we spent a lot of time praising God for His Goodness and countless blessings!


4.  Try to get away for weekends and vacations as often as your schedules permits.  We try to make those trips personal time to just catch up, and get re-connected.


5.  I ask her to critique my images.  She is one of the few people that will tell me the truth, and when she says she really likes an image I know it’s good, because she is a very astute visual person and very good photographer herself.  Best of all she won’t try to pull the wool over my eyes or brag when it’s not deserved!  She’s not harsh, but i can count on her judgement!


6.  Never stopped romancing her.  I treat Sherelene just like the girl who’s heart I had hoped to win so many years ago.


Men, keep your bride happy, make sure she knows how much you appreciate her and how far you will go to protect her and take care of her!!  Not because I said it, but because of what Paul told us in Ephesians!


Ephesians 5:25-27

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.


Do these things, and reap one of God’s greatest gifts, a wonderful marriage and life long friendship!


Be blessed,


the pilgrim

11 Responses

  1. Regina Estep says:

    Wow!!!!!!! Amazing words spoken with such heartfelt love!!!!! This lets me see Christ through you and that is what is expected of you……..again…WOW!!!!! I work with Homer at USP LEE as the dental hygienist….He talks alot about you and the loves shows. It’s a blessing to see such loving men still exist.

  2. admin says:

    Thanks Regina, but their are quite a few men that love their families like that! I’m so fortunate to have a wife and family that is so easy to love!

  3. Todd says:

    Wow… photo, marital, and spiritual advice too! Amen, brother!

  4. Lynn says:

    I really hope I get to meet Sherlene someday.

  5. Jim Wilson says:

    Dear Bill,

    You continue to amaze me Buddy. What a wonderful tribute to both you and your beautiful wife. Sheila and I met when we were 14, fell in love that very moment. I know exactly whereof you speak. It is a privilege to call you my friend. Wishing you many more happy years together.


    Jim Wilson

  6. John Wearing says:

    Great blog Bill, you are a true evangelist for God and our saviour, Jesus. My wife Ruth and I are committed Christians and appreciate everything you say and do for Him. Your advice for marriage is excellent, it works for us, we hit 56 years together next February. Oh, I’m a photographer too here in England and I am so impressed with your work and enjoy everything you willingly share, God bless you , Sherelene and your family.

  7. I have a deal for you. Bring Bring Sherelene to Guatemala on a short term medical team and you bring your camera. While she fights desease you can teach a novice some things about photography and help us improve our telling the story of Vine Internaitonal through photos to our supporters. We assist several Christian hospitals and clinis in Guatemala by shipping donated medical materials, equipment and medicines. Let me know if you are ever interested.
    In Christ, Dennis McCutcheon

  8. Matheus says:

    Thanks, Riles.When Regina pushed Cora thogruh the mirror, I was absolutely sure she was sending Cora to Wonderland (to become the future Queen of Hearts). But then the ending when Cora showed up in Emma and Mary M’s pit threw me for a loop and made me doubt that Cora had really gone to Wonderland after all. But I think you’re on to something. Maybe she did go first to Wonderland and then somehow made her way (or was taken) to FTL later on.I think Storybrooke Regina was sincere, at least for a moment, in wanting to renounce magic, become a better person, and do the right thing for Henry. At first, when she was telling Henry to go with David, I thought it was a trick. But then when she almost burned the book and then changed her mind that all seemed real. I agree with you that it’s an addiction and she will inevitably relapse. But, at the same time, she really does not want to become like her mother even though she already has. So there’s an interesting tension there.

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